It’s time to GET OVER it…here's 5 ways to help you get your motivation back!
You can’t control how others treat you or hey, if you made a mistake then it’s OK, it’s only a failure if you stay down and don’t get back up.
Now I know that’s easy to say right!?
So exactly how do you ‘get over it’ and fire up your motivation?
How do you climb back out of the darkness, the dumps, the ‘whatever’ that sucker punched you in the stomach so you can barely breath.
I’m no frickn expert about this but I will tell you…
I’ve been in the darkness.
I’ve been sucker punched by friends/employees/fellow business partners I once trusted.
I know what you’re feeling right now.
The thing is…it’ll be poison in your system if you…
So Here’s 5 Surefire Ways to Get You Back in the “Field of Life”
1 Forgive (bring in quote from my journal from bible)
2 & 3 Love yourself…Put yourself first. If you’re like me, the majority of the time I’m ‘too nice’ or have a problem saying “no” at the sacrifice of my bank balance. Well it’s time to change.
When I became (pardon the words)…a badass bitch at putting myself first…
Thoughts became clear.
I slept better.
I started having better relationships with my friends, family and loved ones.
I want the same for YOU!
When I was prison one of the most common advice given to me by the “lifers” or people who had been in prison for a long time and where on their way out to freedom was:
“Just do you Maria – always remember that”
Now I’m not talking about being “selfish” to the point you are not adding value to society.
I’m more talking about establishing your boundaries.
Digging deeper – it’s about LOVING YOURSELF.
Even the Bible teaches us the importance of loving yourself before you can love others.
Mark 12:31 NIV:
31 The second is this: ”Love your neighbour as yourself. There is no greater commandment than these.”
Such love includes caring for yourself, respect for yourself and having a sense of self worth.
And the first sentence of John 4:18 NIV:
“There is no fear in love”
How powerful is that right! I know for myself, I feel a sense of peace and calm (all my anxiety released) when I meditate on the Bible teachings.
Let me give you an example of how you and I can think about this. This will also help your motivation!
If you are on a plane and the plane is having problems, the flight attendant tells you to put your oxygen mask on first, before helping others – – even your own child.
Why is this an important rule for ensuring survival?
Because if you run out of oxygen, you can’t help anyone else with their oxygen mask.
This is MISSION CRITICAL for YOUR LIFE.
If you don’t take care of yourself, giving yourself OXYGEN first…
You’ll get stressed out, burnt out and frankly then not be of any help to yourself and to others!
4. Meditate even just 5 Minutes a Day
It’s not an understatement to say meditation saved me.
When I was in a place full of darkness, despair and angry energy…starting my meditation practice stopped me from going downright crazy.
So speaking from experience – I know a meditation can help you.
Even just 5 minutes a day.
The practice of meditation is a gateway into your inner rockstar. That allows you to harness all the power you have inside of yourself.
Meditation is focusing your presence in the present moment.
It is the practice of quieting the mind and turning it inward. Meditation is not just for Buddhists and Hindus, but for people of all faiths.
Why meditation works so dang well?
It’s Chemical. Giving you a dose of a “positivity cocktail” for your brain. Oh YES PLEASE.
During meditation, your body produces and releases good chemicals like serotonin, melatonin, and endorphins that jumpstarts your immune system, fights depression, and helps you sleep better.
5. Gratitude Journal Every. Single. Day
Scientific data about the neuroscience our brains show that:
“There’s no room for negative thoughts, energy when you are in the zone of being thankful”
Part of my morning ritual/habit is to write in my journal 10 things I’m grateful for and then I meditate for 5 to 10 minutes.
It ‘sets my day’ for positive energy.
I love how Amy Fletcher in the Huffington Post wrote about it:
“Wondering why this exercise is important?
Take it from Oprah, who says that starting a gratitude journal and writing down five things a day for which she’s grateful has been the single most powerful decision she’s ever made.
If you’re not an Oprah fan, here is a bit more science to get you on the gratitude train.”
Gratitude can be a natural antidepressant. When we take the time to ask what we are grateful for, certain neural circuits are activated. Production of dopamine and serotonin increases, and these neurotransmitters then travel neural pathways to the “bliss” center of the brain — similar to the mechanisms of many antidepressants. Practicing gratitude, therefore, can be a way to naturally create the same effects of medications and create feelings of contentment.
Neurons That Fire Together Wire Together
It gets better: The more you stimulate these neural pathways through practicing gratitude, the stronger and more automatic they become. On a scientific level, this is an example of Hebb’s Law, which states “neurons that fire together wire together.” But it’s also something you can see plainly in everyday life: If you’re forging a new path through the woods, the first trip is the most challenging and you have to be deliberate. But the more times the path is traveled, the more defined it becomes and the easier it is to follow it. Your brain works the same way: The more times a certain neural pathway is activated (neurons firing together), the less effort it takes to stimulate the pathway the next time (neurons wiring together).
Because of this, what we put our attention on grows. If we’re constantly looking at the negative and searching for problems, the neural pathways for negative thinking become stronger. But practicing gratitude can shift our attention to look for what is going right instead of looking for problems to solve. Over time, this encourages our brains to more consistently search for the constructive themes in our life instead of the destructive ones, helping us water the flowers instead of watering the weeds. (source: https://www.huffingtonpost.com/)
So start your gratitude exercise with 3 simple steps:
1. Go get yourself a journal (heck I get mine for $1 at the dollar store)
2. Set up your “habit trigger” to make it happen (for example when I wake up in the morning and put my tea or coffee on, that’s my habit trigger. I then sit with my cup of coffee and write out 10 things I’m grateful for.
3. Become self aware of how this is changing your life for the better. At the end of the evening, think about how your day went and if you skipped your gratitude journaling that day…did it make a difference in your energy, in how your day went?